"Hey, What Does Your Shirt Mean?"
Recently our Fighters have been seriously repping the movement by wearing our “Porn Kills Love” t-shirts wherever they go, all over the world!
One thing that we keep hearing is how these shirts are quite the conversation starter. Some people are positive, some negative, and some just genuinely want to know more.
We’re glad these shirts are starting conversations about porn and getting this message out into the open. We created these tees with the purpose of grabbing attention and encouraging people talk.
However, we realize some of our Fighters might be having trouble putting into words exactly what this movement means and just how harmful porn is.
Today, we want to give our Fighters some easy-to-remember bullet point answers that they can whip out whenever approached about Porn Kills Love and what they are Fighting against.
Because let’s be honest, the last thing you want is to kill curiosity by mumbling, “Uh, ya know, like, um, drugs…”
So enjoy this reference sheet to help you spread the word and keep this movement going forward!
1. Question: “How does porn kill love?”
Answer: When a partner views pornography, it hurts their romantic relationship.
Studies on regular porn users show that the more frequently the person views porn, the less satisfied they become with a real-life partner. The basic needs of a human being become too much to deal with in comparison to an easy access computer that says, “I need nothing but to please you.” It undermines the give-and-take system of a real relationship because porn is a take-as-much-as-you-want “relationship”. Over time, the porn viewer uses porn to replace the real relationship because it gives selfish pleasure and takes less effort.
Answer: Porn changes the way that men view women.
Studies have shown that as a male user looks at porn, the more he begins to lose the idea of a woman as an equal partner. In fact, research shows that there is a direct correlation between the length of time that a consumer views pornography and the strength of the idea that women should be submissive to men. If that isn’t enough, research has shown that even a single viewing of porn can result in the viewer being increasingly critical of their partner physically, sexually, and emotionally.
Answer: Porn affects the way women view themselves.
Imagine a proposal scene: The guy gets down on one knee and the girl begins crying tears of joy. He says, “Jennifer, will you marry me? I want to be with you for the rest of my life…
Oh, and my computer as well because you’re not quite enough for me to be sexually satisfied. You don’t mind if I spend some time looking at other women’s bodies, do you?”
Hmm. Not very sexy and romantic eh? This is what it feels like for a woman to know that her partner is looking at porn. It is a constant reminder that she’s not enough.
Answer: Porn reduces the chance of finding or wanting real love.
Often times you’ll hear claims that the reason men view porn is becausethey don’t have a romantic partner to take care of their physical needs. But research shows that the opposite is true. Regular viewing of porn damages interest in being in a committed relationship and creates a negative attitude towards love.
2. Question: “How is porn like a drug?
Answer: It addicts your brain.
Porn use causes the brain to be flooded with dopamine, a pleasure chemical that activates the reward pathway in the brain and reinforces your brain to want to return to that activity. Each time the user looks at porn, trails of these chemicals create new patterns in the reward pathways of the brain. The brain is literally being rewired. Over time the viewer adjusts to the intense amounts of dopamine being released, so he/she needs to seek out more extreme content to get the same feeling. Suddenly the porn user is viewing more hardcore versions of porn than they ever thought they would, but find it difficult to stop.
3. If you don’t like porn, don’t watch it. It doesn’t hurt anyone; it’s a personal choice. Why are you telling people not to watch it?
Answer: Porn is a lie.
It’s easy to argue that porn doesn’t hurt anyone if the viewer believes that the people on screen are enjoying themselves. But in too many cases, that’s just not the truth. The satisfaction of the actors, like everything else in porn, is an act. Several ex-porn stars have discussed the horrific ways that they were coerced and abused into filming, and have admitted that most porn stars abuse drugs and alcohol in order to numb themselves to the harsh world of porn.
Answer: Porn fuels sex trafficking.
It’s easy to believe that porn doesn’t hurt anyone if you believe the people being filmed are participating of their own free will and choice. There have been several reported incidents in which women were coerced and threatened into performing sexual acts which were then filmed/photographed and sold as porn. A 2004 study showed that men who had viewed porn within the last year were two times more likely to seek out a prostitute. A majority of prostitutes report that their male customers often show them porn in order to demonstrate what they want to do.
Answer: Porn encourages violence while showing that it is pleasurable for those who receive it.
A study analyzing the fifty most popular porn videos showed that over 88% of them contained scenes of violence, and almost every time, the violence was met with expressions of pleasure rather than pain. Porn tells you that violence is normal, and even pleasurable. Porn numbs people to the seriousness of violence, including domestic abuse and rape.
Spread The Word.
The facts are clear: Porn is not just a simple personal choice with no effects on others. It harms your brain, damages relationships, and poisons society.
The bottom line?
Porn Kills Love.
Now you’re ready to spread the word, Fighters! Now keep repping that shirt with pride!
If you don’t have one, we recommend you get one here: http://store.fightthenewdrug.org/
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Layden, M. A. (2010). Pornography and Violence: A New look at the Research. In J. Stoner and D. Hughes (Eds.) The Social Costs of Pornography: A Collection of Papers (pp. 57–68). Princeton, NJ: Witherspoon Institute; Paul, Pamela. (2007). Pornified: How Pornography Is Transforming Our Lives, Our Relationships, and Our Families. New York: Henry Holt and Co., 80.
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